You say tomato, I say tomahto. When a person hears the word swinging, one thinks both partners are swapped either for soft swap or full swap (see swingers dictionary for soft swap and full swap) and that is the gist of the LifeStyle. Believe it or not as time progresses there are much more fetishes involved in a non monogamous relationship. For example the term cuckold has recently become popular and some couples on swinger websites are very much into and enjoy that type of lifestyle. Wife Swapping was a term used long ago but is making a come back even today to describe the Lifestyle.
Ever since swapping wives and husbands has been in the picture, girlfriend swapping has become a popular trend over these recent years too. This is because society’s view has changed. Girls do not need to remain a virgin until they are married and guys can have their choices too. Both parties feel that they have the option to experience life in a more sexual way. Therefore, attached couples are now opting for such lifestyle before they are married.
Swapping girlfriends is very much the same as swapping wives, and believe it or not Mike Hatcher was swapping his girlfriends when he was younger. One would be surprised what kind of activities are happening to people 18 years of age. But the difference being a girlfriend is not someone who you are legally responsible for. There is no such thing as a marriage contract between you and her. If things don’t work out between the two of you, you can leave and move on to the next one.That is one benefit and why so many women and men age 18 and up are extremely experimental with it.
I remember one summer up camping, it was me and my buddy, his girlfriend and mine. I had a hot girlfriend and so did he. We were drinking, and we discussed switching girlfriends, my buddies girl was down for it but mine was hesitant. His girlfriend came over to me by the fire and dropped to her knees and went down like a pro, I mean this women gave Hoover and Dyson a run for their money, I felt like the life was sucked out of me. I maintained my erection, but noticed when my friend and my girlfriend watched me I got rock hard. She stopped and went back to her boyfriend and immediately my girlfriend took over and started going down on me, it was like a competition, it was great. We decided to all go to the tent.
Once inside, my girlfriend immediately mounted me and started to ride, my friends girlfriend tried to get him into it but he could not maintain an erection. I ended up doing my girlfriend and his. Later he revealed that he just could not get it up. Some men in the lifestyle have this issues, sometimes psychologically they become too excited that they can not get an erection.
In the Lifestlye you may come across many different couples and individuals who enjoy different sexual pleasure. Some are women who enjoy watching their husbands have sex with another woman while they watch and or join. Some men enjoy watching their wives have sex with another man while they watch, hence the term cuckold (See cuckold blog) which again has become very popular over the past few years thanks to the internet. Entering swapping or swinging does not mean that couples don’t equally love, respect, understand and trust each other. Surely for two people to be together and in love, certain elements and agreement must be satisfied to allow for swapping to take place. It is this view that both are getting equivalent enjoyment of sex with different parties and that nobody has been mistreated or disrespected in any way.
Again, swapping a girlfriend or boyfriend with your mate is also a way to enjoy sex without jealousy because both couples have agreed upon such action. Many couples believe it not only creates a stronger bond between each other but also allows them to experience theirs.
Wife swapping has no set rules. It is entirely up to you and your partner to decide the boundaries and limitations. Being involved with swinging or wife swapping, couples need not to be married. They should at least have some history of being together and familiar with each others’ needs and emotions. Here are some general rules if you are considering entering into wife swapping:
- Good Communication -
- Confidence and Comfort -
- Trust, Sensitivity and Respect -
The general rule of thumb is that wife swapping works best only when couples view swinging as an enhancement to their existing sexual relationship, rather than to replace a fail one. Swinging is only a primarily social event.
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