A first MFF (Male Female Female) or MFM (Male Female Male) threesome can be incredible, but without being prepared, it can be a total nightmare. While we all have a fantasy in our minds of how the excursion will go, there are a few things to address before inviting another person into the bedroom for lifestyle play.

The most common lifestyle threesome is the MFF threesomes, but there are some couples interested in inviting another male for play time fun. Most men aren’t keen on having another male participating and for them there are strict rules or boundaries that is outlined before play begins. Couples where both parties are bisexual makes it a lot easier for this type of interaction, but rules are still outlines before couples engage.

Here are a few tips to consider from those experienced in the swingers lifestyle.

Open the Conversation and Discuss Boundaries

Communication is the first—and most important—step to successful partner sharing experiences in the swingers lifestyle. With all parties consenting and agreeing upon set boundaries, the first time encounter will be a much better experience for all involved. Some questions to cover with your main partner and the third addition include:

1. Safety Sex Rules—Do you want to do STD checks or use condoms or dental dams? Have this defined as a priority.
2. Is it acceptable for two of the people involved to be intimate as a couple or should all be involved?
3. How much body contact is allowable and wanted with the third party?
4. Will the third spend the night with you or go home?

These are just a few starting points, but tailor the discussion around you and your partners sexual needs. Here are some other important aspects to think about before swinging into your first-time threesome.

Tip #1: Don’t Overthink It

While setting rules and boundaries is essential, don’t let nerves overwhelm you before the meeting. Stress can affect performance, so having a chat and getting to know each other before getting between the sheets can allow things to play out optimally in the bedroom.

Tip #2: Use Protection

Health and hygiene are a main priority, so use condoms as a basic precaution. Secondary measures for birth control and avoiding transmitting STDs are available and should be a part of the threesomes discussion beforehand.

Tip #3: Avoid Doing Threesomes with Personal Friends

Some people can handle the concept of just sex being sex, while others can take it more seriously and cause drama. That’s why it’s wise to keep close friends, neighbors and coworkers out of the mix. Use a swingers website to connect with like minded individuals to take the complexity out of the mix. While being with a stranger may seem odd, it can be rather hot and sexy and leave less room for next day awkwardness.

Tip #4: Make Sure Your Relationship is Steady for a Threesome

Going back to communication, make sure you both feel comfortable sharing each other sexually. Essentially, your relationship should be rock solid, free of jealousy and open to new experiences. You must work as a team and genuinely want all parties to be pleased. Should there be complications in your relationship, swinging is not the way to resolve them. In fact, it could become a catalyst for trouble.

So, is your relationship strong enough to handle the glories of a ménage à trios? Open the door by looking together at swingers dating websites, head to a swingers club or even take a romantic adult cruise or clothing optional resort vacation and explore new sexual fantasies together.

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