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How To Spot A Swinger

People have written in to good ole “Mike Hatcher”, asking me “Hey Mike is there a way to spot or identify a swinger? The answer is a yes. Believe it or not there is jewelry worn in certain locations that can identify the women in the lifestyle. Men obviously are a little more open, but women wear jewelry to identify to others that they are allowed to play.


For example, if a woman wears an anklet on her right leg, this means the woman is a swinger and does play. However, for single men out there that have not read my posts on “Single Men in the Lifestyle”, listen up. Just because a woman is a swinger does not mean she has to have sex with your or wants to. The misconception is that is a woman is a swinger that she is a slut and has sex with anyone. This is so not true!

Moving on, if a woman wears a thumb ring, this is another indication that the woman is giving out a vibe that she is a swinger.

Toe Ring courtesy

Wearing a toe ring is also another indication that the woman is a swinger as well.Some swinger wife’s will actually switch their wedding ring to the right hand. In closing another indication is a bracelet worn on the left ankle, for men that are unaware, yes there is a difference between an anklet and a bracelet, please learn the difference before you end up hitting on someone from church.

Single Men And Swinging Tips

So many single males wrote in asking me to write a blog. I need to clarify something upfront, I got some polite emails and I received several hate emails on why single guys can get any in the lifestyle. To the polite ones, you are one step ahead of the game. Single males you need to realize that just because you are on a swinger site or in a swinger club does not guarantee you sex. This is a long discussion so I decided to break it into two parts.

The swinglifestyle is a variety of ideas to a variety of people wanting different encounters. The things they share can be a adoration for the erotic experience and also the quest for sexual enjoyment. You will find three significant types of swingers: couples, single females and single males. Couples are definitely the reasons for the swinglifestyle. Single females are comparatively rare, these are called Unicorns which we went over in the last post. Once they do get involved, it is simply because they’re bisexual plus the lifestyle affords them comfortable access to both men and women.

Don’t Be a Towel Shark courtesy sanslittleforg

And in addition, single guys are abundant. A consistent new availability of horny men assures that it’s going to stay like that. So what does it require for a single guy adopting the lifestyle to achieve its purpose? People from the lifestyle meet a number of ways. Typically the most popular locations are through swinger clubs, private parties and swinger websites. For any driven single guy, clubs and websites are definitely the main vehicles — because it is pretty hard for any newcomer to get invited to a private party.

Swing clubs are “Membership Only.” But lifestyle clubs manage a little differently. Within the lifestyle, privacy is definitely the first priority. So clubs usually forgo formal background checks. Nevertheless, as soon as you’re accepted, your personality is under constant overview. In the event you behave poorly or become disruptive, your membership rights are going to be revoked and will also be permanently prohibited from going to the club. Having said that, it’s to your advantage to learn and read below:

Below is Mike Hatchers Single Male guide for successful swinging.

Swinger Club courtesy Trapeze

1. In swinger clubs, the exact same members visit repeatedly, so try to get to be familiar with one another very well. In the event you insult or offend one couple, the news will begin to spread to others. Additionally, when you are pleasant and the couple really likes your company – sexual or in any manner – the couple will be open to introduce you to their friends. Naturally, swingers love to introduce individuals with unique sexual characteristics to their friends. Try not to walk around saying that you have a 12-inch penis, even if you do, everyone already knows it.

2. You’ll have more fun at parties should you leave your macho attitude at the door. Don’t be the guy standing in front wearing a towel, expecting anyone to perform for you. This attitude will get you called a towel shark and you will not have any luck.

3. Be genuine, be natural and socialize. Ask a lady to dance, or better yet, ask her husband because if he doesn’t like you you probably are not going anywhere. Communicate with the husband and become friendly to him too. Keep in mind that couples within the lifestyle are there because of their own enjoyment, not yours. Some have an interest only in couples, some only in females, some in nothing — they just like the environment. Some have an interest in having fun with single men. Many couples are trying to find an additional or perhaps a third man to participate them. To be the guy they choose, make sure to follow all the rules and advice listed here.

Swing Dance courtesy party hardcore

4. Become familiar with the lifestyle, the expectations and also the facts. Browse the other articles in this blog, it’ll help. Remember that people at a swing club are there for the similar reason you happen to be. Most swingers aren’t out there cheating on their spouse. They’re open by what they actually do, resulting in whatever they love to do. Don’t search for a party to just fall in love, or think you’ll sweep a woman off her feet and away from her husband. Arrive and have fun making some new friends. To achieve success ultimately, you’ll need to be the favorable guy which has been seen with some other couples, not the strange guy that’s running from table to table attempting to score. Almost all couples possess a list of rules where they play with, plus they vary little from those rules. Do not attempt to alter them. You’ll fail.

5. Certainly be a gentleman in addition to a classy guy. Just because a woman likes sex does not imply she likes vulgar language or innuendos. Politeness and social skills tend to be more essential in this lifestyle than simply about any place else.

6. Dress nicely, like you’re heading for a date. Since you are going on a date, When you are aware you will be having an intimate encounter with your mate, you take special care in your personal hygiene, right? Well multiply that by ten. Prior to going out, spend more time brushing and flossing your teeth, showering and shaving, styling your hair and dabbing on your best cologne. Mike recommends you take time to trim the goatee if you have one. Mike calls it the womb groom.

7. Don’t think that because you talk or dance with somebody that they wish to have sex with you. Do not get too aggressive unless you have the clear message that it’s OK. When (in case) you receive that message, go along with it, just don’t go overboard. You may even ask again” Is this okay?”

8. Leave the pickup lines at home with the tank tops. Women in the lifestyle are adults and so are not into head-games. They have already heard every line in the book, unless they happen to run into Mike Hatcher.

9. Again, when it comes to couples, introduce yourself to both wife and husband. Don’t approach a woman when her husband just isn’t present. Bear in mind that “Towel Shark” fellow? Once the husband returns (and hubby will), he definitely won’t be very happy to see you.

Show respect courtesy party hardcore

10. Don’t insult a member’s intelligence using the statement, “My wife wanted me to come here first on my own to test it out, so I’ll return back with her the next time. What about you and I play now?” Every swinger has heard that line repeatedly. You might as well say hey my wife’s at church and I am cheating on her.

11. Don’t talk about your wife or your girlfriend, how great she is or how beautiful she is. Let’s face it. If she were, you wouldn’t be here alone wearing that towel.

I hope you enjoyed the first half of how to succeed in the Lifestyle. Join me next time for part 2 and the next tips for being a single male and gaining success.

Unicorns And Swinger Tips

A couple of people (newbies) emailed me recently and asked what a unicorn is in the swinging community. I thought this would be a good time to introduce what a unicorn is and tips for the unicorn in the lifestyle. First off a unicorn is a single swinging female, yes you heard it correctly a single swinging woman. Although these women are rare, they are NOT hard to find. Yes they are not hard to find. First up, the benefits of being a single swinging woman in the lifestyle are AMAZING. Listen to this, there is no cover charge, you will more than likely get your drinks for free and you can have your pick of any couple, or man at the event most times.

Unicorns Exist

Unicorns, when you are at a swinging event, BE HONEST. What I mean by this is, if you are or are not bisexual, let the couple/guy know this up front as to not irritate or cause trouble. Some women actually like to share their male partners with a straight woman, so take notes.

Unicorns, when you meet couples, be respectful of couples and their boundaries and since you are single and not bi, some ladies may be cautious of you. Just be sincere about your desires, and be sure to address any concerns that the couple may have with you. Again don’t pretend to be bisexual if you are not just to have sex with a guy.

How To Swing

I know what you are thinking, “Mike you said it’s not hard to find a unicorn”, yes I did. Okay for all the single guys out there, listen up. I recently went through a break up, yet I still find time to swing and play. I am 35 years old, I have been called a charmer, but if you read Mike Hatchers pick up lines you can go far. Anyway you can find women at the mall, next to nail and hair salons and tanning salons. One time I met 3 women at a tanning salon in Fort Lauderdale. I was a customer, and several women work there between 21-28. I have been talking to them(small chat) throw in a few funny jokes here and there. I ask what they like and are in too?

One says she is a party girl, I am quick to mention “ever been to a swinger party? She was curious and thought you had to be a couple. I explained no, we can show up together, and I explained that we did not have to have sex. Just as simple as that and we were at local swinger club in South Florida, I only got her number to pick her up that following Friday. She was nervous but excited, we met a few couples, and then met a Hot wife. This Hot wife was cuckolding her husband, this was new for my date so we went into a room. Me and the wife did our thing while the husband and my date watched. After the hour long session, I took my date and we got something to eat, she was holding my hand the whole time and blushing. She said she wanted to head home and that she was tired. I thought “wow I scarred this girl so I better take her home”. We started going down the road, and she said “I was shocked what I saw”. I quickly said sorry I did not mean to offend you”. She started holding my hand going down the road and said” I loved it”. She said “I wanted to join but you were with the other woman”. She unzipped my pants and you can guess what she started doing the whole way home. LOL I guess you can say “we headed home” lol…

Heading Home

Since then I have taken her out, and two of her friends from work. Yes each of them, and I took each of them to the swinger club. You just have to be upfront and honest. Single guys, I know you get horny, but often times you trade that in for your weakness of “lets go to dinner”. Look, only ask a woman out to dinner that you are serious about. Do not ever screw over a woman. EVER ! If you want to get laid, be upfront and honest, there are women out there that think like you do, trust me. Be open, honest and you will see what I mean. Women look for booty calls just like men. In closing, there is room for single men and women in the lifestyle, i promise to write a blog soon and SINGLE MEN and how to survive in the lifestyle.