One of the biggest misconceptions about the swingers lifestyle is that you cannot build intimacy or connections with other swinging couples. However, swinger couples prefer to build long term friendship with other couples which increases intimacy at playtime. While some people prefer monogamy and prefer to have one connection with one person, the swingers lifestyle allows you to build lasting connections with others.

If you’re new to swinging or interested in learning more, here’s some tips for building intimacy and connections in the swingers lifestyle. 

Set Clear and Defined Boundaries with an Open Line of Communication With All Parties

Before intimacy can take hold, trust must first form. One of the best ways to build intimacy and connections, especially for swinger couples, is to set clear boundaries and always keep an open line of communication with all parties involved in play. If you’re swinging with your partner, you need to ensure your partner is comfortable with the scene, as well as any third party you invite into your bedroom.

Open and honest communication is key to establishing any type of trust between play partners and is the cornerstone of intimacy in the lifestyle. Once trust is established, you have the basis for lasting relationships and intimacy to form. 

Engage in Deep Conversations and Active Listening

Another misconception associated with the lifestyle is that sex is the only thing that swinging is about, couples build lifetime friendship that extends outside the lifestyle. If you’re looking to establish intimacy, you must get to know the person or persons you’re inviting to play. Engaging in deep conversations and active listening at any meet ups, seminars or workshop will take you a long way to building connections in the lifestyle.

Many couples swing to enjoy other partners in many different ways, including a mental and emotional connections. Engaging in deep conversations and active listening can help you to learn more about other partners while building a lasting connection.

Avoid Depletion

Lastly, pay attention to yourself and establish your own personal limitations. One of the biggest mistakes many swingers make, especially new swingers, is to want to make connections with too many people too fast. It can be draining to try to maintain a multitude of connections or build multiple connections up in a short period of time. Take your time and give each relationship the time and attention it needs to flourish. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, tired or struggling to keep up, take a step back before you deplete yourself. 

It is possible to build intimacy and connections while living the swingers lifestyle. You simply need to be respectful of all parties involved and engage each person as an individual, exactly as you would if you were monogamous. It may take a bit more navigating and a little more effort, but the pay-off can be rewarding, as you can have positive and fulfilling relationships with multiple people who are also into swinging. 

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