Swinging And Cheating, Is There a Difference ?
Swingers have a much higher success rate as it relates to marriage, than those who are not part of the lifestyle. If you and your partner are open with each other and have communicated your wants and desires as it relates to your sexual relationship and have both agreed that the practice has peaked your interest, then it seems your marriage has already survived the first true test, which is communication. For non swinging relationships, 50% of the women cheat and 60% men cheat at some time in their marriage. Recent studies show that 80% out of all marriages someone are having an affair.
The first study conducted by the University of California in 1998 reported 24% men and 14% women cheated outside their marriages. In nearly 10 years the numbers doubled, believe it or not the people that have cheated blame the jump on the internet. According to divorce magazine, 46% of men believe that online affairs are considered adultery.
About 75% of married people believe it is OK to visit an adult site. Out of the married couples, 57% of people used the internet Social sites, to reconnect with an old flame or with a new flirt. Roughly 38% of married couples engaged in explicit online sexual conversation and 50% have talked on the phone with someone. What is most interesting is 31% of people have had an online conversation that led to sex from a non sex related social site.
With swingers, the couples do not engage in sexual activities or flirt to replace their significant other. With the lifestyle the feeling is mutual and the lifestyle looks down upon cheating.
With these numbers of divorce on the rise more couples are embracing the lifestyle and embracing life. If a husband enjoys seeing his wife have sex with other people, and if a wife enjoys seeing her husband have sex with other people, then how is this considered cheating? Cheating is when you knowingly and willingly had sex with somebody else without your spouse’s knowledge or consent.
The lifestyle is about respecting and loving your partner, the ability to enter the lifestyle is about trust. Many couples enter swinging while in secure relationships; provide added motivation to avoid excessive health risks. While sexual affairs outside the relation may be in the heat of the moment with no regard to the other partner, swingers maintain that sex among swingers is a more thought-out and practical affair.
According to ABC News reporter John Stossel, who conducted an investigation in the Swinglifestyle. Stossel reported several Americans are swingers, according to estimates by the Kinsey Institute and other researchers. Stossel cited Terry Gould’s research, which concluded that “couples swing in order to not cheat on their partners.” When Stossel asked swinging couples whether they worry their spouse will “find they like someone else better”, one male replied, “People in the swinging community swing for a reason. They don’t swing to go out and find a new wife. They don’t swing to go out and find a new wife;” a woman asserted, “It makes women more confident – that they are the ones in charge.” Stossel interviewed 12 marriage counselors. According to Stossel, “not one of them said don’t do it”, though some said “getting sexual thrills outside of marriage can threaten a marriage”. Swingers that Stossel interviewed claimed “their marriages are stronger because they don’t have affairs and they don’t lie to each other. 12 of 12 marriage counselors do not have a problem with swinging. People should not cheat or have affairs, Swingers put everything out in the open. The thrill of being a swinger is keeping the thrill alive, and loving your partner. In conclusion when someone asks if there is a difference between cheating and swingers, the answer is a definite “YES”.
Keep in mind, when you cheat you are hurting someone, it can take months and even years to get over. Swingers do not encourage cheating and they do not hurt their partner. This is Mike Hatcher saying “treat others and especially your partner with respect”.