I have received several emails form newbies and from veterans who wanted me to dabble in this subject of swinger clubs. Let me first explain that before you join or look for a swinger club you need to be sure you want to experience the lifestyle as a couple.
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For newbies I recommend going over rules together, this is a must. for example both of you are in this together and both need to openly discuss what is or what is not OK to do. You need to ask questions like do you want to do a soft swap? or a full swap? Soft swap is when both couples are in the same room but have sex with your spouse. Full swap is when you both exchange partners. Before you enter into the lifestlye these questions must be asked of each other. You also may ask what you and your partner can and can not do with someone else. always discuss and make up these rules together.
Now that we have got the basics out of the way we can focus on the swinger clubs. First search your favorite swinger website like SwingLifeStyle on the swinger club section. You will see hundreds of listings. It is good to look at the swinger club closest to you or you may want to travel to one. Make sure to call or visit the swinger club website and ask questions like, “how much is the cover fee?” or “Is It BYOB?”.
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Next, find out when and if there are single men allowed on certain nights. This is an important question for newbies. I remember one time me and a buddy took our wives to a local swinger club not bothering to check, well it was single male night and there was a lot of single men. This can be good if your wife wants to experience multiple men, and if it is, well this may be the night for you. Anyways we were drinking and 7 single men walked up and started to give us, and our wives a bad time. Needless to say we had a terrible time and ended up leaving. It is always good to know what you are getting in to before. You may also want to go to a local swinger club when they host an event, like a vacation giveaway and there is more interaction to break in the newbies for the first time. For veterans, use your judgement, and for newbies go to a couples only event the first time out. To view all the swinger clubs in every city in the US click here: Swinger Clubs
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I was asked to go to a club with a guy I had been casually dating who had been to the club before. I was nervous going in but everyone was very friendly and since many of the people new the guy I was with, they were very protective of me. They asked if I was having fun and enjoying myself. We did play with a two different couples and I really enjoyed myself.
I recommend everyone check out a club at least once.
Not sure about other parts of the country, but it’s our understanding that “soft swap” is oral-only play, NOT play with your partner in the same room as another couple. So be careful out there if your advertizing yourself as “soft swap” as others may take this the wrong way!