So many single males wrote in asking me to write a blog. I need to clarify something upfront, I got some polite emails and I received several hate emails on why single guys can get any in the lifestyle. To the polite ones, you are one step ahead of the game. Single males you need to realize that just because you are on a swinger site or in a swinger club does not guarantee you sex. This is a long discussion so I decided to break it into two parts.
The swinglifestyle is a variety of ideas to a variety of people wanting different encounters. The things they share can be a adoration for the erotic experience and also the quest for sexual enjoyment. You will find three significant types of swingers: couples, single females and single males. Couples are definitely the reasons for the swinglifestyle. Single females are comparatively rare, these are called Unicorns which we went over in the last post. Once they do get involved, it is simply because they’re bisexual plus the lifestyle affords them comfortable access to both men and women.
And in addition, single guys are abundant. A consistent new availability of horny men assures that it’s going to stay like that. So what does it require for a single guy adopting the lifestyle to achieve its purpose? People from the lifestyle meet a number of ways. Typically the most popular locations are through swinger clubs, private parties and swinger websites. For any driven single guy, clubs and websites are definitely the main vehicles — because it is pretty hard for any newcomer to get invited to a private party.
Swing clubs are “Membership Only.” But lifestyle clubs manage a little differently. Within the lifestyle, privacy is definitely the first priority. So clubs usually forgo formal background checks. Nevertheless, as soon as you’re accepted, your personality is under constant overview. In the event you behave poorly or become disruptive, your membership rights are going to be revoked and will also be permanently prohibited from going to the club. Having said that, it’s to your advantage to learn and read below:
Below is Mike Hatchers Single Male guide for successful swinging.
1. In swinger clubs, the exact same members visit repeatedly, so try to get to be familiar with one another very well. In the event you insult or offend one couple, the news will begin to spread to others. Additionally, when you are pleasant and the couple really likes your company – sexual or in any manner – the couple will be open to introduce you to their friends. Naturally, swingers love to introduce individuals with unique sexual characteristics to their friends. Try not to walk around saying that you have a 12-inch penis, even if you do, everyone already knows it.
2. You’ll have more fun at parties should you leave your macho attitude at the door. Don’t be the guy standing in front wearing a towel, expecting anyone to perform for you. This attitude will get you called a towel shark and you will not have any luck.
3. Be genuine, be natural and socialize. Ask a lady to dance, or better yet, ask her husband because if he doesn’t like you you probably are not going anywhere. Communicate with the husband and become friendly to him too. Keep in mind that couples within the lifestyle are there because of their own enjoyment, not yours. Some have an interest only in couples, some only in females, some in nothing — they just like the environment. Some have an interest in having fun with single men. Many couples are trying to find an additional or perhaps a third man to participate them. To be the guy they choose, make sure to follow all the rules and advice listed here.
4. Become familiar with the lifestyle, the expectations and also the facts. Browse the other articles in this blog, it’ll help. Remember that people at a swing club are there for the similar reason you happen to be. Most swingers aren’t out there cheating on their spouse. They’re open by what they actually do, resulting in whatever they love to do. Don’t search for a party to just fall in love, or think you’ll sweep a woman off her feet and away from her husband. Arrive and have fun making some new friends. To achieve success ultimately, you’ll need to be the favorable guy which has been seen with some other couples, not the strange guy that’s running from table to table attempting to score. Almost all couples possess a list of rules where they play with, plus they vary little from those rules. Do not attempt to alter them. You’ll fail.
5. Certainly be a gentleman in addition to a classy guy. Just because a woman likes sex does not imply she likes vulgar language or innuendos. Politeness and social skills tend to be more essential in this lifestyle than simply about any place else.
6. Dress nicely, like you’re heading for a date. Since you are going on a date, When you are aware you will be having an intimate encounter with your mate, you take special care in your personal hygiene, right? Well multiply that by ten. Prior to going out, spend more time brushing and flossing your teeth, showering and shaving, styling your hair and dabbing on your best cologne. Mike recommends you take time to trim the goatee if you have one. Mike calls it the womb groom.
7. Don’t think that because you talk or dance with somebody that they wish to have sex with you. Do not get too aggressive unless you have the clear message that it’s OK. When (in case) you receive that message, go along with it, just don’t go overboard. You may even ask again” Is this okay?”
8. Leave the pickup lines at home with the tank tops. Women in the lifestyle are adults and so are not into head-games. They have already heard every line in the book, unless they happen to run into Mike Hatcher.
9. Again, when it comes to couples, introduce yourself to both wife and husband. Don’t approach a woman when her husband just isn’t present. Bear in mind that “Towel Shark” fellow? Once the husband returns (and hubby will), he definitely won’t be very happy to see you.
10. Don’t insult a member’s intelligence using the statement, “My wife wanted me to come here first on my own to test it out, so I’ll return back with her the next time. What about you and I play now?” Every swinger has heard that line repeatedly. You might as well say hey my wife’s at church and I am cheating on her.
11. Don’t talk about your wife or your girlfriend, how great she is or how beautiful she is. Let’s face it. If she were, you wouldn’t be here alone wearing that towel.
I hope you enjoyed the first half of how to succeed in the Lifestyle. Join me next time for part 2 and the next tips for being a single male and gaining success.