Cuckold
Several readers have written in and asked me if there is a difference between swinging and being a cuckold. The answer is a definite yes. To understand a cuckold relationship or lifestyle you must first understand what a cuckold is. The encyclopedia determines a cuckold as a man who has an unfaithful wife.
Interracial cuckold
The newer accepted description is or can be, a sexually inadequate husband who accepts his wife’s decision on who she alone will decide to have sex with. Now there are several types of cuckolds. Some cuckold relationships involve a white wife who exclusively has sex with a black man. Sometimes in this type of lifestyle the wife may want to, or accidentally get impregnated by the man who the wife has sex with, known as the “Alpha male or the “Bull”.
cuckold (courtesy wifesharing)
Usually the wife will have sex with a man that is much more endowed than her husband. Sometimes humiliation come in to play, and some wives even make their husbands wear a chastity device, and may call them their slave. After the full sexing of the wife by the “Alpha male” it is usually customary for the husband to clean up the wife orally once the Alpha male has ejaculated on her or in her. The husband must do a good job licking up the semen deposited by the Alpha male. Some husbands and wives enjoy this lifestyle and if you see a wife or husband on SwingLifeStyle looking for a “Bull” or :Alpha Male” then you know what their interests are.
Swingers
Now swinging can involve a husband watching the wife have sex as well, but in swinging the husband can join in and usually its about swapping partners. Swinging is not about humiliating, but bisexual experience or semen tasting may come into play. I guess you can say there are certain degrees and fine lines in between a cuckold lifestyle that cross a hair or two into swinging but also a hair or two into the BDSM lifestyle as well. Sites like SwingLifeStyle are great for this type of activity because it is the largest website of its kind.
Remember everyone has their own fetish and please be courteous to everyone, no matter what their fetish is. Some people have mixed fetishes on swinging and cuckolding, so be sure to get to know the person or persons you intend to have an adventure with.
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Cuckolding is very demeaning to the husband. Swinging is more mutual. Being a hotwife or a slutwife is like a combination of cuckold and swinging, but without the demeaning. The girl who writes the Lovingly Shared blog wrote a piece on going to swinger parties alone. Pretty interesting, I thought.
I think the description of cuckolding here is just a tiny drop in the bucket. Just like swinging, which ranges from couples who like to socialize with other couples and get turned on but never interact with anyone else, to couples who are completely open and interact with anyone they want with or without their partner, cuckolding ranges over an infinite number of potential arrangements as well.
Many cuckolds are absolutely sexually adequate, and can even be well endowed. Their own actual potential as lovers may or may not have anything to do with how aroused they get by knowing about or watching their partner with other men. For some, it could be as simple as being excited by their wife being with another man – something that happens all the time in the lifestyle. Not every cuckold cleans up after their partner has been with another man – but some will ‘fluff’ the other man to get them ready. The potential interactions between the ‘bull’ and the cuckold are endless; some cuckolds never watch while others are used sexually themselves.
I’ve known a few cuckolds, and my two favourites are guys that want to be humiliated, want to be ridiculed for having inadequate penises, and love to eat creampies. They’re my favourites because after we play our cuckold games, I ‘allow’ them to have sex with me as a reward and I get to enjoy their amazing sexual talents. Both of them have larger than average cocks and the skill to use them well. I play with both of them without any cuckolding as well because they’re just damned fun to play with.
It is my belief that the lifestyle is full of cuckolds; some of them are comfortable confiding in others about their kink and some aren’t, but it’s a safe, easy place for a woman to interact with lots of men and have sex with those she chooses. It’s easy to get into a threesome and let the other guy take control. I don’t think cuckolding is any different than any other kink though – and there are an endless number and all of them are present in the lifestyle, whether people talk about them or not.
It’s true that there is a difference between someone who just loves to see their partner enjoying themselves and someone who gets off on the fact that they’re enjoying themselves with someone other than them, but it doesn’t have to go beyond that for someone to be a cuckold. I just wanted to add my comments because I think it’s important to realize that there is no one specific set of behaviours that defines all cuckolds any more than there is for swingers. Vanilla people have ideas about swinging that we all know are based in ignorance and lack of experience, and whenever we discuss an alternative lifestyle not our own, we run the risk of making assumptions in the same way. So, as I said earlier, I think the description here is much too specific, and I just wanted to add a little more to help people have a better understanding that it means different things to different people just like swinging does.
I dont fully agree with the definition of cuckold here. 1. My wife is not unfaithful, 2. I am not sexually inadequate, 3. I have no desires to orally clean the deposits of the other man on my wife. Yet, I like to watch my wife flirting with strangers with a view to have sex with them and I do prefer the other man to be better endowed and stronger than me to give my wife a much better experience than me. I like to sit and sip my drinks while watch them in action live. I enjoy when they, while having fun, abuse me and make me feel comparatively inadequate.
we espeacialy myself lisa love cuckolding. tieing my hubby up and forecing him to watch as im fucking younger men is so exciting to me and i know he enjoys it to because the next mouring after when i turn him lose and my younger dick has left he falls face first into my still dripping wet well fucked pussy . then fucks me like he were still a teenager we very much injoy it yes indeed.
fine line is right…my husband just loves to see me fucked by a big cock but is not into the humiliation nor does he want to join in…nor does he like black males nor do I…not prejudice, a well hung black male would be fine but white guys are hung too! it’s just about hot sex and his vouyeristic and my exhibitionist style!
i still don.t know if i’m cockold i realy enjoy watching my wife with other men i.m not small at 8in by 2in thick i also particepate and i like him to be larger than me
We decided to make the bull-hotwife-cuckold relationship a reality after a long time of playing it out in fantasy. We are an extremely happy and tight couple that protects each other’s heart. We communicate constantly. This is us together playing the fantasy out with a “bull”, “dom”, “lover”, “alpha-male” or whatever label you apply.
Jack thrives off the humiliation. The key for us is he absolutely needs to be involved. If he just sits and watches, Kissy sees he is bored and thus becomes bored as well. It really takes the bull to understand the dynamics and know how to coordinate playtime, and it’s not just the playdates. It’s the orders the bull gives Jack prior to the date, like having to buy condoms and tell the clerk they are for his wife’s lover, or buying panties for himself to wear, taking pics of Kissy in lingerie so the bull can choose what outfit she will wear that night, etc.
Kissy communicates with her lover on the side and she helps the bull planning so he has some ideas as well as understands limits.
Jack gives up his seat at the bar when the bull arrives and kisses Jack’s hotwife in front of everyone whom just saw Jack intimately close with Kissy. Jack buys drinks. Kissy wears her garters and anklet, etc. and knows that the more she enjoys her lover, the more turned on Jack is – this is very important.
Jack folds her lover’s clothes when he undresses, sucks her lover’s cock to get him hard, licks her lover’s balls and shaft while he is inside of Kissy. Jack always cleans up her lover’s cum.
It is NOT demeaning as it is Jack’s biggest turn on and it is he who had to convince Kissy of these desires, and had to convince her that he would not be jealous or insecure.
Also know that it’s not a one night stand. This is a long term relationship. Trust is developed. There are occasional Kissy & lover meets, for quickies or blowjobs at lunch, but only when Kissy sees that her lover wants the cuckold to be involved, where 80% of the time we are all together.
For us it’s not about the bull stealing the wife. There are some cucks that actually desire that, to eventually lose his wife to another man, even though he loves her. That is the most extreme. For some it is the wife playing alone all the time with the bull. For some it is the hubby just watching the whole time. Different degrees of cuckolding for sure.
We found ourselves unable to swing – swapping partners. Kissy does not want to see Jack with another woman. Jack only wants Kissy. It could happen with the right couple, but the chances for jealousy and insecurity increase with that dynamic for us.
When we find the lover that clicks with us and understands the dynamics, it is simply the most amazing relationship.
Not everyone can understand the relationship, but we respect all types of relationships and hope this article and comments can help others understand cuckolding a bit more.
-Kissy and jack
Great replies people, greatly appreciated !
These replys show just how varied things can be!
Personally-I just enjoy my wife enjoying other men(in& out of bed)-the more public the better!
As a submissive crossdresser I do enjoy some(esp. public) humiliation!
Guys(esp. if they wine& dine her) can get her to do most anything with anyone if she likes& trusts you & I don’t need to be present to enjoy it!Allthough I enjoy being there to!She allso likes to watch men USE me(esp. when I’m dressed fem)& thinks I should have boyfriends to!
Her limits are-No restraining her in any way-no kids or animals- No pain for her& No toilet play-So-when guy lead her there are endless possbilitys!
Except for extreem pain–I don’t know what my limits are!
Cuckhold Don London Ont.